Acceptance is the Medicine
You just heard it, acceptance is absolutely the medicine. If you are experiencing too much pain in your heart right now because of losing someone or something very dear to you, the best medicine is acceptance—nothing more, nothing less.
You will not be able to move on with life if you do not face what is happening currently. You will not be able to find peace and joy behind great things if you have not accepted the fact that the treasure you have been keeping for in your life is gone…forever gone.
It hurts, I know. And it hurts the more when it is the person you love so much has slipped through your life; if the person you love the most took your own love for granted, never believe in you and has never loved you back. There will be too much pain to bear when a dear one left you for another one. But there’s more pain if what you are experiencing is losing someone because of death. That will be more difficult to accept.
Pain comes to each individual in different forms and various ways. It is all about accepting that pain. In life, we can never escape this reality. We cannot avoid pain. It will always be there to test us. The only medicine for this emotional pain is acceptance. The earlier we do it, the better.
Happiness is a Choice
Do you agree that happiness is a choice we make?
In life, our choices and decisions matter for whatever state we are in today. If you wish to live happily then take good care of your choice. If you want to experience joy in your world then value your own selves. There are those who always long to get happy but couldn’t. They choose to sacrifice rather than smile. They choose to let others enjoy the happiness. They choose to let others even decide for themselves then after that they complain about life. Does this happen to you?
Take over with your life and your choices. If you are willing to make a sacrifice for others to smile just make sure to leave even a little happiness for yourself. It counts. In anything we do, the choices are left to us and no one can force you to make that decision for you unless you allow them. Choose to live life with happiness. That’s one of the greatest benefits of being human, the freedom to choose how to live.
The Sound of Silence
What is indeed the sound of silence? Can you hear something when there’s nothing have been said?
Well, when both people knows each other very well, yes they can! When you know what is going on, indeed you can! Silence is even more deafening when it goes on and on for a long time. Try it and you will see.
When someone dear to you does not talk to you any longer the way you both used to then something is behind it. This is very common either with lovers or couples, friends and even families. The act of being silent can mean differently depending on the situation. There are silent moments and silent reactions which can be interpreted in a good way. There are also those which can be interpreted in an alarming manner when there’s war or argument before it.
Whichever way silence took place, the bottom line is it cannot be concluded and interpreted without clarification,confrontation or explanation. When silence takes place, it means more than that.
Rejection is a Way of Life
It feels so bad when you get rejected especially by someone. The more it hurts when the one who rejects you plays a vital role in your life that you value most. Have you been struggling to recover from rejection? It is not easy I know. Yes, it is tough but it is such a challenge to behold when you overcome it, when you conquer the effects of it.
As a human being we are all subject to this cycle of life. There is no exception to that. Whatever we do, wherever we are we cannot prevent it at times that there are those who will not like us or who will not accept our ideas, beliefs, actions and even ourselves. Remember that we can never please anybody but with the art of acceptance, we can indeed come out victorious.
Never think it is the end of the world when you are rejected. If you suggest something that you think is worthwhile and is not accepted move on. If you court someone you love so much but rejected you, come on! That does not mean you are the worst. It only means someone better than that person is awaiting for you. If you ask for a favor but gets rejected, it does not mean you are not worth it. Keep going.
Life has its array of colorful trials. It is a matter of how you keep going despite all the rejection. It’s just a way of life. You will see.
Life’s Indeed at Work!
Life’s indeed at work lately but not the pen.
There are loads of things to attend to that there was really not much time to blog. From family to work to almost everything there exists around me physically. Now, just got back my feet on the ground again and probably will have a little chance to keep the pen writing once more.
For the past couple of months – traveling, working, family bonding and some charity involvement occupied at the very top priority. Well, I am happy to be blessed with many things to do rather than being idle. They always say blog your blessings but probably not just my type at some point. There are blessings which are better blogged in prayers and praises to the right Author above!
Moods can sometimes take over the pen not to write at all. I have been on training lately, some studying recently and more to say. Other than that, I’m back on my blog ready to write a little once more to share, inspire and perhaps encourage!
The 10 Basic Principles of Good Parenting
I came across a very good book of parenting by Laurence Steinberg,Ph.D. and I am pleased as to how this amazing stuff discusses great principles in dealing with your own child. Let me share to you the over-all summary of what the book is all about in 10 simple enumerated principles he got for everyone.
1. What You Do Matters.
2. You Can Not be Too Loving.
3. Be Involved in Your Child’s Life.
4. Adapt Your Parenting To Fit Your Child.
5. Establish Rules and Set Limits.
6. Help Foster Your Child’s Independence.
7. Be Consistent.
8. Avoid Harsh Discipline.
9. Explain your rules and Decisions.
10. Treat Your Child With Respect.
Agree to Disagree
Human as we are, there are times when we react to things we do not like or those which we think are wrong. If something is not right and does not live up to what we thought is good, we mostly disagree. How do you do so when you disagree? Do you scream? Do you simply raise your own issue?
Reactions differ from one person to another. There are those who still stay cool while expressing their own opposite reactions but there are those who simply cannot manage their own temper and could release some hurting words that they may regret in the end. To react is human. To disagree is even more human that we thought. However, it is all a matter of how we presented our disagreement. It takes a cool head, strong mind and a loving heart before doing so in order not to regret it at the end, in order not to hurt others. You just need to simply learn how to agree to disagree.
Events Beyond Grasp
Life is indeed mysterious and unpredictable. Many people worry with various things but the truth about life is that: the things we need to worry about are those events in life which never crossed our worried mind and are beyond our human imagination such as this most recent devastating calamity in Japan.
Who would imagine this devastating earthquake and tsunami to occur in just a blink of an eye? Did anyone even foresee this? Perhaps forecast has already known an upcoming great tsunami but not even those great scientists thought of this unimaginable devastation. Yes, maybe the Japanese people have been used to the shaking of their land from time to time but none has ever even thought this worst event to come like this.
Events and catastrophes like this are the things that never crossed our worried mind. The truth is, we worry about small things not knowing the unknown and bigger ones will just sweep away your thoughts. May God bless the people of Japan and protect everyone. The tragedy has happened, whatever worries you will build within it will no longer helped. The destruction is already there. What we need now is prayer.
Circumstance in Our Lives
Who would not want to know what’s ahead of us?
In life, we are always tempted to know the pros and cons of every situation, every decision and every changes we make in our lives. There are even moments where we are too afraid to risk and gamble on something new because of the unknown the future may bring.
However careful and knowledgeable we are on what we do and decide, we sometimes really fall and commit mistakes. At times, even if we studied the situation very well to come up with a great idea or solution things can still happen in different ways – in an unexpected circumstance. I guess everyone has encountered a u-turn in life, an unexpected event that never crossed their worried minds. We may want to control every situation we have but really, there are things beyond our power.
The basic truth is we simply cannot control all the circumstances in our lives. Sometimes, we need to let go of things which are beyond our human grasp. Sometimes, we need to go with the flow.
Understanding Differences
In any relationship, it is important to know how to understand differences. Every human being is unique and so as your friend, partner, lover, brother, sister and all others. There are certain values and beliefs of your own that may not be suitable for others but with understanding comes lasting relationship. You can either agree with each other or agree to disagree, whichever may best apply. The only point is: differences should not tear you apart but instead tighten your relationship together.
You see, if you happen to have a partner whom you feel is totally opposite to you then you can either learn the art of understanding or just simply live in suffering, whichever you find convenience though. However, know that each relationship has its flaws. No one’s own connection with another is perfect as nothing really is perfect in this world. You may have but a heavenly bond and this usually results in the great efforts of understanding. Whatever relationship you are in right now that you desire to last, keep it harmonious with the grace of understanding.
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